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hello readers and fans of Tom and Kate,
yes, That is a dilemma isn't it?? How do you divide your loyalty as fans between celebs biggest couple..?? It seems like in a "flash", this nuclear family is now, one of the many statistics of failed marriage..thrown on the heap of "smoking ash"..and the children , as always are caught in the crossfire. This is succincts news top celebrity story and topic today!! The good news is that Tom honored his promise to his little princess with a visit to follow his movie.just days after shooting his last film "oblivion", he is seen on this link, with Suri. Tom is now making good on his promise to Suri. There's nothing like divorced couples cooperating for the best "interest" of their daughter. After all, Tom was there for Suri and her new world with Mom colliding with her past is complex and confusing. First she moved to a brand new apartment with her mom,Kate, leaving all her familiar things behind. I mean it has to be tough for Suri, even being in the camera 24x7 since she came to New York a short time ago. Her pattern and routine must be supervised by attentive parents , who will do their best to keep the natural flow of Suri's life and interest without interruption. I somehow think celeb parents are immune to the drama's of divorce, though i'm sure they are not. It just seems that layers of wealth and pampered treatment would insulate them from the hard blows and hits of the usual divorce injustices. Just as the loyal fan wants to extend support to both celebs, friends in the industry must also walk a very fine line in keeping value judgements quiet or at least fairly balanced equally for both parents. .. Sometimes it really is for self-respect and preservation that you do not want to see your friends post divorce and also because you care "deeply" about them and dont want them to be in the proverbial and unhappy "middle" of the politics. The bitter feelings between divorved couples can spill into the relationships you had pre-divorce with many married friends who are feeling helpless and affected in a negative way. They truly don't want to be in the war games or strategies for lets say "custody and support" between warring parties. . Keeping a fair perspective , even for friends , is a hard core challenge. I mean your married friends...want to see you as a family and many have trouble supporting your new life as a divorcee. It takes time to reinvent your image. Its a transition and process that I'm sure Kate and Tom are experiencing, and are those same issues that many divorced couples have faced. They must invest time and energy in creating new images and especially images that are of tasteful and fit parents lest scandal and tabloid "rock the boat". For Suri , it is imperative that mom and dad work together like a well-oiled machine. The only child of Tom and Kate , must recover her security and identity. Once a nuclear family is lost, a child suffers in every aspect. Perhaps, Kate will be there in her new apartment with Suri next time to meet Tom face to face... At least Tom was welcome there. I give Kate points for allowing Suri access to her dad. I know some women , especially , who play politics and shabby games with control and "using" the child in ways that do damage. It looks like Kate and Tom are doing the right things.. whether they are in a fishbowl or not.. the "true" focus is on Suri and at least from this reporters perspective, it looks like the game is being played judicially and Suri is getting what she needs for her development with the security that both parents still care about her, will put her first and will go on with normal activities that put her center stage. It's good that Tom's sister, Cass was there as a third party too. That way there is no confusion about visitation time, pick up and drop off schedule and basically with an eyewitness, things go smoothly. Miscommunications happen all the time in custody and visitation arrangements.The parents get spiteful and can cause serious issues and problems for the children. The parents act "childish" and the children "learn" from this "exploitations and manipulations" that there is no truth or trust you can beleive in, only the "fantasy" of lies.
Can you imagine an angered ex calling police to a "roller skating rink" because she didnt like the new girlfriend of her ex and didn't want her daughter with the "blended" family?? Calling Police instead of expressing behaviors of a mature fit parent and communicating with your ex ?? is a total disgrace ! It just shows how bad "jealousy" can get. The damage and message it sends to minor children is that they cannot even have fun in a safe place without drama from "police" because jealousy and envy become more important than a child's day to have fun and normal relationships with other children. You must , as Tom and Kate are modeling fit parents,.. do the right thing for your child.. stay at the top of your career and give your child the love and attention they need through all these "transition" changes and processes. Keep you eyes on Suri.. She will have a story to tell one day.. and it will be positive or negative , depending how her parents manage the divorce and give her security. "fighting and dirty games" are not allowed. Suri gets all her feelings about "justice" and "democracy" from her parents. It is a time that Kate and Tom can really "shine" for their daughter and keeping promises and building trust is one very important way to build bridges of trust. !! I would say Tom and Kate passed one of the most serious obtacles and tests of the newly divorced. That is to quickly get past their own feelings about the divorce and keep their daughter as the focus of everyday in every action or reaction they take.Parents who are Staying friends is very important for the child of divorce. It doesnt mean the "end" but means life will continue and there will be happy events that they may enjoy together, even as a family if sabottaging steps dont get in the way. For Suri, life is like a moonscape without the daily interaction of a nuclear family. She must find new gravity and balance in her "chaotic" world because Suri's reality is one that has been "blown up" by her parents. In reality, kate's career is that she is often away from Suri, as Tom is also driven by his film star status and must be apart from his child, much of the time. The film industry, as we know, doesnt hold the "nuclear" family as the common experience but more as the "infrequent" and "non-conforming experience". You really don't get the support you need for family life "from the industry" or even from a church, scientology or any other. Maybe its the "model" of a successful marriage that parents , who are also children or divorce, need the most. Life in the fast lane and the pressures of being a famous actor, actress or person, puts the marriage at risk for a myriad of reasons that fracture even the closest of relationships.There's no way i would have ever "predicted" that Tom and Kate would be divorced . There's no way any of us fans saw this coming.
What i think is very powerful is this.. That both parents remember that their child was conceived in love and that "love" was thought to be forever.. The child is evidence of that love and should never be a "victim" in the sense that "divorce happened" or "love stopped". It is important to remember your childs struggles relating to the divorce and to speak comforting words and encouragement. Divorce is deadly for the "esteem" of a child.. and can be just as damaging to the "adults" self-image. The best you can do is "be there" for your child, keep your promises and enforce a message of "trust". One to one discussions were necessary in my personal divorce with my two older children who witnessed many negatives and were obviously affected. Counseling from a professional who can openly discuss the changes caused by divorce and address the fears of the child sometimes help, a caring pediatrician or even a member of the extended family who can step in and give the child more "security" that life will go on, families will stand by them, no matter what and they will always have family even if mom and dad dont live in the same home anymore. A little child development and child psychology study, is what every parent must do for their child to keep things going smoothly and communications open with their children. There is no excuse for parents who cannot "cooperate" and make the child the focus. It is essential to building a happy and secure life for your child. children will always want mommy and daddy to go back together again..(like humpty dumpty) and a good parent will offer explaination , will take time to communicate and will always tell their child that no matter what, mom and dad will be there to love them and support them in all their discoveries of life.That those feelings and parent child relationship will never end and always be constant. That love for their child will never stop and divorce happens to many children. A child did not fail..the parents failed and this is what the child must know eventually. That sometimes marriages cannot work out, but good parents will always be fit parents and do what is necessary to keep their child safe, educated and growing with healthy experiences that develop their unique talents and identity.
It is my sincerest wish that Tom and Kate continue their "award-winning" performance for Suri's sake. It seems like Act one Scene one was a smashing success!! I mean this with heartfelt emotion , knowing the many horror stories of divorce , whether star-studded or just political make victims of children. Suri is on a journey through life and what she will remember most.. is how well her parents cared for her.. gave her feelings of security and happiness and imparted values of integrity to her in a world that is more like a jungle than ever before! I wish the Cruise and Holmes families the best for the challenges ahead. The children are so worth the time and energy! Put the children first.
Detective sparks, reporting for "promises kept".
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hello readers and fans of Tom and Kate,
yes, That is a dilemma isn't it?? How do you divide your loyalty as fans between celebs biggest couple..?? It seems like in a "flash", this nuclear family is now, one of the many statistics of failed marriage..thrown on the heap of "smoking ash"..and the children , as always are caught in the crossfire. This is succincts news top celebrity story and topic today!! The good news is that Tom honored his promise to his little princess with a visit to follow his movie.just days after shooting his last film "oblivion", he is seen on this link, with Suri. Tom is now making good on his promise to Suri. There's nothing like divorced couples cooperating for the best "interest" of their daughter. After all, Tom was there for Suri and her new world with Mom colliding with her past is complex and confusing. First she moved to a brand new apartment with her mom,Kate, leaving all her familiar things behind. I mean it has to be tough for Suri, even being in the camera 24x7 since she came to New York a short time ago. Her pattern and routine must be supervised by attentive parents , who will do their best to keep the natural flow of Suri's life and interest without interruption. I somehow think celeb parents are immune to the drama's of divorce, though i'm sure they are not. It just seems that layers of wealth and pampered treatment would insulate them from the hard blows and hits of the usual divorce injustices. Just as the loyal fan wants to extend support to both celebs, friends in the industry must also walk a very fine line in keeping value judgements quiet or at least fairly balanced equally for both parents. .. Sometimes it really is for self-respect and preservation that you do not want to see your friends post divorce and also because you care "deeply" about them and dont want them to be in the proverbial and unhappy "middle" of the politics. The bitter feelings between divorved couples can spill into the relationships you had pre-divorce with many married friends who are feeling helpless and affected in a negative way. They truly don't want to be in the war games or strategies for lets say "custody and support" between warring parties. . Keeping a fair perspective , even for friends , is a hard core challenge. I mean your married friends...want to see you as a family and many have trouble supporting your new life as a divorcee. It takes time to reinvent your image. Its a transition and process that I'm sure Kate and Tom are experiencing, and are those same issues that many divorced couples have faced. They must invest time and energy in creating new images and especially images that are of tasteful and fit parents lest scandal and tabloid "rock the boat". For Suri , it is imperative that mom and dad work together like a well-oiled machine. The only child of Tom and Kate , must recover her security and identity. Once a nuclear family is lost, a child suffers in every aspect. Perhaps, Kate will be there in her new apartment with Suri next time to meet Tom face to face... At least Tom was welcome there. I give Kate points for allowing Suri access to her dad. I know some women , especially , who play politics and shabby games with control and "using" the child in ways that do damage. It looks like Kate and Tom are doing the right things.. whether they are in a fishbowl or not.. the "true" focus is on Suri and at least from this reporters perspective, it looks like the game is being played judicially and Suri is getting what she needs for her development with the security that both parents still care about her, will put her first and will go on with normal activities that put her center stage. It's good that Tom's sister, Cass was there as a third party too. That way there is no confusion about visitation time, pick up and drop off schedule and basically with an eyewitness, things go smoothly. Miscommunications happen all the time in custody and visitation arrangements.The parents get spiteful and can cause serious issues and problems for the children. The parents act "childish" and the children "learn" from this "exploitations and manipulations" that there is no truth or trust you can beleive in, only the "fantasy" of lies.
Can you imagine an angered ex calling police to a "roller skating rink" because she didnt like the new girlfriend of her ex and didn't want her daughter with the "blended" family?? Calling Police instead of expressing behaviors of a mature fit parent and communicating with your ex ?? is a total disgrace ! It just shows how bad "jealousy" can get. The damage and message it sends to minor children is that they cannot even have fun in a safe place without drama from "police" because jealousy and envy become more important than a child's day to have fun and normal relationships with other children. You must , as Tom and Kate are modeling fit parents,.. do the right thing for your child.. stay at the top of your career and give your child the love and attention they need through all these "transition" changes and processes. Keep you eyes on Suri.. She will have a story to tell one day.. and it will be positive or negative , depending how her parents manage the divorce and give her security. "fighting and dirty games" are not allowed. Suri gets all her feelings about "justice" and "democracy" from her parents. It is a time that Kate and Tom can really "shine" for their daughter and keeping promises and building trust is one very important way to build bridges of trust. !! I would say Tom and Kate passed one of the most serious obtacles and tests of the newly divorced. That is to quickly get past their own feelings about the divorce and keep their daughter as the focus of everyday in every action or reaction they take.Parents who are Staying friends is very important for the child of divorce. It doesnt mean the "end" but means life will continue and there will be happy events that they may enjoy together, even as a family if sabottaging steps dont get in the way. For Suri, life is like a moonscape without the daily interaction of a nuclear family. She must find new gravity and balance in her "chaotic" world because Suri's reality is one that has been "blown up" by her parents. In reality, kate's career is that she is often away from Suri, as Tom is also driven by his film star status and must be apart from his child, much of the time. The film industry, as we know, doesnt hold the "nuclear" family as the common experience but more as the "infrequent" and "non-conforming experience". You really don't get the support you need for family life "from the industry" or even from a church, scientology or any other. Maybe its the "model" of a successful marriage that parents , who are also children or divorce, need the most. Life in the fast lane and the pressures of being a famous actor, actress or person, puts the marriage at risk for a myriad of reasons that fracture even the closest of relationships.There's no way i would have ever "predicted" that Tom and Kate would be divorced . There's no way any of us fans saw this coming.
What i think is very powerful is this.. That both parents remember that their child was conceived in love and that "love" was thought to be forever.. The child is evidence of that love and should never be a "victim" in the sense that "divorce happened" or "love stopped". It is important to remember your childs struggles relating to the divorce and to speak comforting words and encouragement. Divorce is deadly for the "esteem" of a child.. and can be just as damaging to the "adults" self-image. The best you can do is "be there" for your child, keep your promises and enforce a message of "trust". One to one discussions were necessary in my personal divorce with my two older children who witnessed many negatives and were obviously affected. Counseling from a professional who can openly discuss the changes caused by divorce and address the fears of the child sometimes help, a caring pediatrician or even a member of the extended family who can step in and give the child more "security" that life will go on, families will stand by them, no matter what and they will always have family even if mom and dad dont live in the same home anymore. A little child development and child psychology study, is what every parent must do for their child to keep things going smoothly and communications open with their children. There is no excuse for parents who cannot "cooperate" and make the child the focus. It is essential to building a happy and secure life for your child. children will always want mommy and daddy to go back together again..(like humpty dumpty) and a good parent will offer explaination , will take time to communicate and will always tell their child that no matter what, mom and dad will be there to love them and support them in all their discoveries of life.That those feelings and parent child relationship will never end and always be constant. That love for their child will never stop and divorce happens to many children. A child did not fail..the parents failed and this is what the child must know eventually. That sometimes marriages cannot work out, but good parents will always be fit parents and do what is necessary to keep their child safe, educated and growing with healthy experiences that develop their unique talents and identity.
It is my sincerest wish that Tom and Kate continue their "award-winning" performance for Suri's sake. It seems like Act one Scene one was a smashing success!! I mean this with heartfelt emotion , knowing the many horror stories of divorce , whether star-studded or just political make victims of children. Suri is on a journey through life and what she will remember most.. is how well her parents cared for her.. gave her feelings of security and happiness and imparted values of integrity to her in a world that is more like a jungle than ever before! I wish the Cruise and Holmes families the best for the challenges ahead. The children are so worth the time and energy! Put the children first.
Detective sparks, reporting for "promises kept".
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